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So...the DVD's / video game shelves I had in the upstairs room of the house - only place I was allowed things "publically" viewable (and some of it was nerdy - what's the point of having all the volumes of the initial Filmation DVDs of Masters of the Universe that make up a huge multi-trych/mural if they're boxed away?) - have been "removed to storage" by advisement of one of the Kumbiyah Therapists. That means besides clothes in closets / dressers and the assorted toiletries, there's pretty much no sign of "me" in the house for which I pay. Not just the DVDs and such but also things like my guitars and not even a single book anywhere...
I am told by said-therapist that it's the normal way of doing things...that the house is completely the woman's area, ergo the existence of "man caves" (which I don't get to have and as I think about it, "cave" really designates sending you off to a dark hidden area that makes "your space" the equivalent of a Kevin Smith-esque person living in Mom's basement...).
All I know is I feel...erased.
But I realize maybe I'm being a drama queen. After all, the therapist says that's the way normal people function. So I guess the point I've been meandering to - I'm actually feeling almost "shocky", dumb as that sounds - would be to ask "Is that true?" Because I have to say, for something that's supposed to be "right" it feels way off but maybe I'm being too close minded or something...
(I know I get a little hung up on having "stuff". I know a large part of that comes from living through my family losing all our stuff. Also lot of years as a "faceless being with only a Go Bag" - eg: time overseas with military medical corps - meant having a place I could come back and feel like I had a presence became a bit of a greedy luxury. I note this only because I feel it's only fair to present the "Devil's Advocate" views to my whining.)
I'm not the best judge of this stuff, but I'd say it's abnormal. Granted, my wife allows the entire house to be a stage for my obsessions. I have TPB's and statues of Dr. Doom, Destro, and Gollum on shelves in our rec room right next to the MAME. I have an Iron Man print over our couch in the living room, and I pretty much own the basement. That's not even considering I have a Comic Book Room. It's filled with boxes ready for donation right now, but I'm cool with that. The one room I'm not allowed to touch is our bedroom. That's her safehaven where she reads and relaxes so I'm totally fine with her asking to control it. Doesn't bother me one bit as long as I'm allowed a drawerr in my night stand to put my nightly reading comics. So based on your description of her, I'd never be able to live with your spouse. We'd get in screaming matches probably daily.
Quote : Originally Posted by KrisL
I mean, I could see it if you were going overboard - wanting to hang a picture of Spider-Man in the Living Room above the fireplace.
You're funny.
Quote : Originally Posted by Immortal_Raven
Indeed. Compromise is key. Rokk, does your wife have complete reign over decorating without regard to your input, or do you still have some influence there? If it's the first case, your therapist is an idiot. If it's the second, then you've got a good start to working things out. I can see the master bedroom being contentious, but each person in the marriage should have some of their individual preferences in decorating. That's why my wife has her doll collection and I have clix mixed with some good fictional works. Left to our own devices, neither one of us would consider the other's choices.
So my company is being kicked off the contract on September 30th, and we had a Human Resources meeting this afternoon to discuss options. If the new company picks us up and we're not unemployed for a period of time, then we don't get severance. Now it's not that big a deal to me since I'm newer in terms of the company and still fairly young, but there were some angry people in that room. At least a dozen left early with mutterings about lawyers.
My current company's head strategist is clueless. He doesn't realize that without a written transition agreement, their company policy about severance will get screwed over in a court of law, at least I think so. I'll most likely be working for the new company, but if there's no transition and I simply applied on my own and won the "new" job, my current company still has to pay up.
All the angry folks are upset with fairly good reason since they would probably have to take pay cuts, but they don't realize the landscape has changed. Companies don't care about you anymore, they care about their bottom line. So yeah, a goofy day to say the least.
I have an interview scheduled for Tuesday. And I don't think my salary could get much lower. The new company has a much better business position here in town and from some conversations I've had, I may actually get a raise due to having my Bachelor's degree.
Congrats on the good news. Hopefully it work out for you.
That folks, is by far the most personal information I've ever shared in 6 years of being on this website. In the end I don't have anything to add other than incorrect punctuation, commiseration, and a general response of "That is whack".
Welcome to the family.
Quote : Originally Posted by Rokk_Krinn
Because it's the right thing to do. I don't mean that condescending either. I just really don't know a less straightforward to put it.
Been there, brother.
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Oh, watched Fight Club. Really good. About soooo much more than fighting. This is the kind of movie I would rewatch, possibly buy but maybe not, as I wouldn't want to watch it again for a couple years. Maybe five years down the road I probably would want to watch it again. Anyone ever have movies like that? You know you're going to want to watch it again, but not for a couple years.
Hey Chaz, remember that $2000+ car bill you just had? Yeah, your bad luck rubbed off on me. I'm looking at $1500-2300 depending on tomorrow's diagnosis. And I also found out yesterday that my tractor needs it's carb rebuilt. There goes any savings I had. Ah, such is life.
Hey Chaz, remember that $2000+ car bill you just had? Yeah, your bad luck rubbed off on me. I'm looking at $1500-2300 depending on tomorrow's diagnosis. And I also found out yesterday that my tractor needs it's carb rebuilt. There goes any savings I had. Ah, such is life.
AAAAAUUUUGHHHHH!!!!! I so feel your pain!!! Then again, you had savings - I did not. Hurt both ways, though. I am so very sorry to hear that you have to deal with my woes. Here, have a banana.
"I have deprived your ship of power, and when I swing around, I mean to deprive you of your life. But I wanted you to know who it was who had beaten you."
KHAN NOONIAN SINGH
In memory of Ricardo Gonzalo Pedro Montalbán Merino
AAAAAUUUUGHHHHH!!!!! I so feel your pain!!! Then again, you had savings - I did not. Hurt both ways, though. I am so very sorry to hear that you have to deal with my woes. Here, have a banana.
It happens, man. Honestly, worse things could and have happened. I just thought I'd let you know that you're not alone.
It happens, man. Honestly, worse things could and have happened. I just thought I'd let you know that you're not alone.
Thanks, man.
Plus, PaxZRake got married this past weekend and nobody told me!!!!
Happy Happy Joy Joy, Mister and Missus Paxie!!!
"I have deprived your ship of power, and when I swing around, I mean to deprive you of your life. But I wanted you to know who it was who had beaten you."
KHAN NOONIAN SINGH
In memory of Ricardo Gonzalo Pedro Montalbán Merino