Good. No need to discuss that more then.
Pretty much, yeah.
Yup. Damage dealt is based on the damage value, but it's not the same thing.
At the top of page 14 of the FF rulebook. Can't access the PDF rulebook right now, so you'll have to do without a quote.

as the powers are worded you can you use both at the same time?

because from my understanding they are both power action

or maybe because its a power action that grants a close combat attack

but then in thoery cant you use incap with flurry a la charge? (i know you cant, im just seeing if im correct)

thanks for any clarification in advance

Yes.
They are not. Incapacitate is activated by a close or ranged combat action (that's why it can be used with Running Shot or Charge) while B/C/F activates when the figure is given a close combat action.
As I said, neither power requires a power action.
No you cannot. Flurry requires a close combat action, and so does Incapacitate. You cannot use one action to activate multiple powers like that.

Thanks, I remembered reading it somewhere, but wasn't sure.

Also, to imaleximsweet, even though for instance both Hypersonic Speed and RCE are activated from "giving a Power Action", you can't use them together because they both require an action to be given to activate that particular power. For instance Charge is a Power Action which grants a close combat action. Now, there's both Exploit Weakness and Flurry which are activated from a close combat action. However Charge only gives 1 close combat action, and you would need 2 close combat actions to activate both EW and Flurry. Then again there are powers which have "When given", such as BCF, that don't require an action to be activated, they get activated when given a specific action.

Like turning the ignition on your car. If you have a glove compartment which can be locked with the car key, you can't open the glove compartment and start the car at the same time because you only have one key. However when you start your car, your car stereo turns on. You don't need to start the stereo separately from your car (unless you have an oldie like I do), it gets turned on with the same action you use to start your car. Just like BCF you can also turn on your stereo without starting the car, but in that case you need to "give the action" to the stereo.