i a friend of mine wants to connect with me he gets

tcpClient_Error Number=10061,Description=Connection is forcefully rejected,Scode=-2146818227,Source=C:\WINDOWS\system32\mswinsck.ocx
Couldn't connect

I turn of my fire wall and virus scan and everything but he just cant connect.. and i just cant connect with his computer...
But i can connect with other people...

help me!

Are you behind a router?

jup..

jup.. im connected to a router who gives on laptop wireless internet..

Ok, if you are behind a router you need to set it up to forward packets on the port you are using to your internal computer. From outside your network users can only connect with your router. When your router receives packets for OCTGN it does not know what to do with them. You need it to forward them to your internal IP.

what type of router?

its a site com router...

im not familiar with that router